The Four Agreements

Author of the book – Don Miguel Ruiz

You can read this book probably in two hours but it can awaken you from some of your false beliefs.  Miguel Ruiz says that ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe in all these lies – interesting, right?  He says from young we start believing in many things fed to us.

He also says that our human society is ruled by fear because of the various sufferings all around the world. He said that humanity is in search for the truth, justice and beauty. We are searching for the truth because we only believe in lies which have been stored in our mind. According to him, in spite of all the happenings around the world, nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves throughout our own life.

I gradually began to agree to what he said in this book and find that ‘The Four Agreements’ he is talking about makes a lot of sense to handle ourselves better for our own progress and peace. Here are the four agreements he talks about which I have just touched on:-

  1. Be Impeccable With Your Word

Your word is the power and it can be created by yourself. The word is not just a written sound or symbol but is a force to create actions in your life. The word is a double edge sword that can create a beautiful dream or destroy everything around you. A word can even destroy millions of lives. All over the world, humans destroy other humans because they are afraid of each other. What we say may trigger many disastrous things.

Impeccable here means “without sin”. Everything you do and believe which goes against yourself is a sin. Even saying ‘stupid’ to oneself is also a sin and that will work against the person.

  1. Don’t Take Anything Personally

If some say I am stupid and if I take it personally and I agree it only depicts that I belief in what he says. Thus I am falling into the trap of others’ personal opinion and belief about me. Moreover, the person might want to just humiliate me. By not accepting or rejecting the other person’s negative opinion is important for own growth and our own positive beliefs. In other words we should not get offended and retaliate just because of a negative opinion of others as it will not help us to move on with our own beliefs.

You should not be responsible for the actions of others but only responsible for your own.

  1. Don’t Make Assumptions

He says that we have the tendency of making many assumptions simply because we believe they are true. I personally do accept that this is absolutely true since most of us do that. We know that there are various extreme different opinions and conclusions made on a subject. We keep differing in our views and in fact sometimes make it more complicated for just believing and agreeing to whatever said.

I personally made many assumptions which resulted in wrong conclusions. Thus it is good to listen carefully of what is said before making our own opinion.

  1. Always Do Your Best

He says that the best is not going to be the same from one moment to the next. The best so might be of high quality at one moment and just good in another moment.  However, he says that regardless of the quality we need to keep doing our best for that moment, hour or day.

He says that you only be you when you do your best failing which you will deny yourself the right to be you. eHh hh  jjjjj jm

I would recommend this book to be read by everyone. It will help to look at yourself more deeply and that it will definitely help in your own spiritual growth provided the four agreements are continuously practised.  I am practising it daily although I have not perfected all those he had said but I keep doing it and I find it useful.

Parents should read this book to keep motivating your children from young. These four, simple agreements could help in their personal development and spiritual growth. It is better way than to keep feeding our children on our beliefs which may be false and that might eventually create more and more fear as they grow older.

Read the book a few times. Write down the heading of the four agreements. Read every morning before you leave your home or start your day. It is helping in improving myself and I am sure it can be of help to others too.