Visit to Vision Home

Looking back four years ago on this date, 7th of August, the painful incident reignited. We had to go through this day, a memory of the past.  If there had been no calendar, it would have been better. These dates can either bring happiness or sadness depending on what the recurrence dates mean to us.

As usual I took leave. My wife and I spent most part of the time at home. My wife attended to the household chores and was doing some reading. I was doing some reading, writing and surfing the internet looking for information on subjects related to our lives and spiritualism. I also listened to some of the brief speeches on spiritualism. One of our favourite ones we now follow is Sadhguru. His explanations are meaningful, logical and practical, most of the time. It helps to improve our knowledge and brings us peace of mind.

 I also spent a  few moments at the balcony looking at the highway watching  the free flow of cars.  I used to do it occasionally and on this date I broke down again. It is still unbearable to see so many vehicles on the road but now I cannot see my son Prashanth driving his car to come home. To know that I have not talked to him and saw him face to face for four years is unbelievable. Well, this will continue to pop up all the time as years go if I have to live a few more years or much more.

 

In the evening we went to the same orphanage Vision Home as we did the past three years. We served dinner for the 35 children at the home. There were a few new children who have joined the group. The same care takers Miss Erika, Mr. and Mrs. Sam were present. In fact we always feel that they are wonderful people. They not only take care of these children well but also attend well to people like us during our visits.

 They did some prayers for my son as well as for us. During the prayers this time I was just trying to control my tears by shifting my thoughts.  Only a few children may be aware why we are there but at the same time many other small children are totally not aware of our feelings and what would be going through us.

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We spent some time with the children. We also spent some time talking to Miss Erika, Mr. and Mrs. Sam. We talked about children, our life on earth, experiences and 2015-08-08 08.06.04 (2)the challenges we are facing now. During our discussion we realized that we are all going through many different experiences and sometimes some similar experiences which are very challenging. Handling these challenges will continue without any breaks as new challenges will come along the way immaterial whether we resolve the existing ones or not. Our job is to keep on managing whatever we face.

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The children were served with dinner at 7.30pm. We bought some food they would like to eat. Maria, Miss Erika’s daughter is always an important person in our life. The small boy Bala has also become very close to us now. He was 2015-08-08 08.00.35proudly showing a T-shirt given to him by his mother who visits her children at the orphanage once in a few months. There were a few new children who seemed to be happy when we pay attention to them.  We can see that sometimes some of these children get very excited seeing us visiting them. In a way we too feel good to be around with them.

Whenever we are at the orphanage, we feel at peace.

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New Comers

Around 9.00pm my wife and I drove back home recalling how our life has turned out to be for us missing Prashanth. WeMaria

continue consoling us that everything is temporary here and that we will be together again once we cross over.  Meanwhile, we will continue to visit this home regularly as long as we are around and healthy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Prashanth’s birthday

It was 27th of May 2015.  Prashanth has moved to the next realm almost 4 years ago. In memory of his birthdays we went to the welfare home Vision Home as usual. We had a cake in his name.IMG_3277

Although his absence remains as a pain for us, we feel relief in a way to have his birthday celebrated in this home. We continue visiting this place at least four times in a year. The number of children has increased to 33 although a few have left. The children’s ages range from 2 years to 19 years. In one case, the father committed suicide and his wife ended up leaving their six children in this home as she too had her own problems. Although it is painful to see these young children  being left  in this home, we noticed that Erika the one who is in-charge of this home along with the couple Mr and Mrs Sam are really doing a great service.  They pay a lot of attention to these children so much so the children always look cheerful. Sometimes I wonder whether their own parents would be able to take  care of them as these people do. At the same time, we also noticed that the other adult children also pay a lot of attention to the younger children.

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We spent some time with the children as usual. Maria, the first girl we met at this home and who  is a daughter of Erika is almost six years old.

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 She looks cuter now. She means a lot to us as our son Prashanth has treated her when he was at the hospital. Every visit to this home and meeting up with Maria means a lot to us. She was 2 years old when we went to this home. As I have said earlier what made us to go to this home is something cannot be explained. Some energy is always at work.   However, we know it is our son who guided us to this home.

IMG_3280We are now also getting closer to another young boy who is around 3 years old. He is one of the   six siblings at this home. His name is also Bala. Initially he could not accept my name to be Bala as well and kept insisting that the name only belongs to him. Maybe he believed that one name is only for one person. Anyway, with our frequent visits he gradually compromised with me. He is a loving person. He is the boy who called my wife mother, when he was young. That made my wife cry then thinking of Prashanth. She felt that Prashanth was sending messages through him. Whatever it may be it does give us relief and in a way some peace whenever we are at this home.

IMG_3291 We met one girl by the name Natalie, a Chinese girl who is now residing in Hong Kong. She is doing some social service and she will be at this home for about six weeks. She spends some time teaching the children Chinese. Sometimes some of us might assume how much Chinese she could teach during these six weeks. The truth is the children can always pick up fast. The boy Bala can now say one to ten in Chinese  with speed without any pause. I believe all these small gestures by individuals can trigger many young people to pursue something useful in the future as we know everyone in this earth has his or her own talents. We can assist them to tap their talents. IMG_3290IMG_3274

On this day, we ordered some food from a nearby food court for dinner. The food was served  after the birthday wishes was sung for my son. Mrs Sam said some prayers for  Prashanth for us. We believe our son Prashanth is watching us from the other side knowing well that we continue missing him and at the same time we are moving on with our life.

Quotes

 

I went to a bookstore and asked the saleswoman, “Where’s the self-help section?”

She said if she told me, it would defeat the whole purpose.

  • George Carlin

 

You can build radiant health, success and happiness by the thoughts you think in the hidden studio of your mind.

  • Joseph Murphy

 

There is no limitation to the mind except those we acknowledge.

  • Napoleon Hill

 

My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground upon I stand.

  • Thich Nhat Hanh

Quotes

Death is not extinguishing the light, it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come.

  • Rabindranath Tagore

Good for the body is the work of the body, good for the soul the work of the soul, and good for either the work of the other.

  • Henry David Thoreau

I could well imagine that I might have lived in the former centuries….. my life as I lived it seemed to me like a story that has no beginning and no end.

  • Carl Jung

 Everyone is trying to accomplish big things not realizing life is made of little things.

  • Frank “Parson” Clark

The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success

Author – Deepak Chopra

Deepak Chopra talks on ‘The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success’ which can also be referred as  ‘The Seven Spiritual Laws of Life’.

It is a pocket size book with just 96 pages. You can read the book in an hour or so. If you just intend to read it for once and keep it aside I would advise you not to purchase the book. However, if you read it and understand The Seven Spiritual Laws Deepak talks about, I am sure you will not read once but many times. Eventually you will understand the deeper essence of this book which can lift you higher from where you are now. It can eventually help one to handle one’s life more efficiently and effectively by practising these simple laws of spiritual success.

In this book Deepak Chopra says that success is not a destination but a journey. Material success is just one aspect of success and that success also includes things like good health, energy, enthusiasm for life, creative freedom. He also says that in spiritual terms, success is measured by how efficiently and how effortlessly, we co-create with the universe.

Below is the brief content of the book under the various spiritual laws he talks about:-

  1. The Law of Pure Potentiality.

Here, pure potentiality means pure consciousness which is the field of all possibilities and unlimited creativity. Our physical body, the physical universe and everything in the material world comes from the same place. He says there is no separation between the field of energy and our spiritual essence. We need to create a harmony with nature to make the desires materialise. Meditation or taking time to be silent to connect with our spirit, practicing non judgement, to be align with nature, listening to sound or even the smell of the flower are some of the things he has highlighted.

  1. The Law of Giving and Receiving.

He says everything in the world operates through a vibrant exchange. Even currency must keep moving from hand to hand otherwise it will become stagnant and therefore it will not be alive then. The same applies to everything else. Only when we bless others we will be blessed. Even a silent wish or a prayer to make someone feel better is a form of giving.

  1. The Law of Karma or Cause and Effect

When talking about Karma do not assume that he was talking about bad Karma. Karma is both action and the consequence of that action. It simply means to be happy we need to seek happiness by doing something which we yearn for. According to him we are the consequences of the choices we make. As such we have to be aware of the choices we make every moment.

  1. The Law of Least Effort

He says ‘Do less and accomplish more’. Least effort can be expanded when our actions are motivated by love. He says the nature is held together by the energy of love. We should take responsibility for our own situation without blaming anything or anyone.

  1. The Law of Intension and Desire

He says that our intentions and desires, when released in the field of pure consciousness, have unlimited organising power. Energy and consciousness exist everywhere in the nature. At the level of pure consciousness, there is nothing other than energy and information. Attention energises and intention transforms.

Past and future are born in the imagination and only the present, which is awareness, is real and eternal.

  1. The Law of Detachment

The way to acquire anything in the universe is to let go of attachment. What he is trying to explain here is that we do not let go our desire but the outcome. In other words, if we failed in our endeavour in getting something done, we should not brood over the desired negative results but continue pursuing what we desire.

When a problem arises we have to turn it into an opportunity to benefit.

  1. The Law of Dharma or Purpose in Life.

It states that we are spiritual being taken a physical life to fulfil a purpose. Well, if what I have read is all true then this should be true. It seems we plan and come to the earth. We therefore have come for a purpose. We must identify our unique individual talent and use it for our  spiritual growth and at the same time assist others in their spiritual growth.

In my opinion, Í think instead of spending too much time on subjects like history where the facts are distorted, manipulated and interpreted many times to suit each different situation,  we should as well spend more time on our spiritual growth by reading and understanding the purpose of our life. If we can do that history will remain as history and the importance of now will bring about a better future for all.

The Four Agreements

Author of the book – Don Miguel Ruiz

You can read this book probably in two hours but it can awaken you from some of your false beliefs.  Miguel Ruiz says that ninety-five percent of the beliefs we have stored in our minds are nothing but lies, and we suffer because we believe in all these lies – interesting, right?  He says from young we start believing in many things fed to us.

He also says that our human society is ruled by fear because of the various sufferings all around the world. He said that humanity is in search for the truth, justice and beauty. We are searching for the truth because we only believe in lies which have been stored in our mind. According to him, in spite of all the happenings around the world, nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves throughout our own life.

I gradually began to agree to what he said in this book and find that ‘The Four Agreements’ he is talking about makes a lot of sense to handle ourselves better for our own progress and peace. Here are the four agreements he talks about which I have just touched on:-

  1. Be Impeccable With Your Word

Your word is the power and it can be created by yourself. The word is not just a written sound or symbol but is a force to create actions in your life. The word is a double edge sword that can create a beautiful dream or destroy everything around you. A word can even destroy millions of lives. All over the world, humans destroy other humans because they are afraid of each other. What we say may trigger many disastrous things.

Impeccable here means “without sin”. Everything you do and believe which goes against yourself is a sin. Even saying ‘stupid’ to oneself is also a sin and that will work against the person.

  1. Don’t Take Anything Personally

If some say I am stupid and if I take it personally and I agree it only depicts that I belief in what he says. Thus I am falling into the trap of others’ personal opinion and belief about me. Moreover, the person might want to just humiliate me. By not accepting or rejecting the other person’s negative opinion is important for own growth and our own positive beliefs. In other words we should not get offended and retaliate just because of a negative opinion of others as it will not help us to move on with our own beliefs.

You should not be responsible for the actions of others but only responsible for your own.

  1. Don’t Make Assumptions

He says that we have the tendency of making many assumptions simply because we believe they are true. I personally do accept that this is absolutely true since most of us do that. We know that there are various extreme different opinions and conclusions made on a subject. We keep differing in our views and in fact sometimes make it more complicated for just believing and agreeing to whatever said.

I personally made many assumptions which resulted in wrong conclusions. Thus it is good to listen carefully of what is said before making our own opinion.

  1. Always Do Your Best

He says that the best is not going to be the same from one moment to the next. The best so might be of high quality at one moment and just good in another moment.  However, he says that regardless of the quality we need to keep doing our best for that moment, hour or day.

He says that you only be you when you do your best failing which you will deny yourself the right to be you. eHh hh  jjjjj jm

I would recommend this book to be read by everyone. It will help to look at yourself more deeply and that it will definitely help in your own spiritual growth provided the four agreements are continuously practised.  I am practising it daily although I have not perfected all those he had said but I keep doing it and I find it useful.

Parents should read this book to keep motivating your children from young. These four, simple agreements could help in their personal development and spiritual growth. It is better way than to keep feeding our children on our beliefs which may be false and that might eventually create more and more fear as they grow older.

Read the book a few times. Write down the heading of the four agreements. Read every morning before you leave your home or start your day. It is helping in improving myself and I am sure it can be of help to others too.

Prashanth’s 31st Birthday – 27th May 2014

Prashanth’s 31st birthday

Prashanth's 31st Birthday

Prashanth’s 31st Birthday

 

 

As usual we celebrated Prashanth’s birthday in the Vision’s Home. It was his 31st birthday and it was the third consecutive year we celebrated at the same place with the children. It means a lot to us to have his birthday celebrated every year. Each time when are we at the Vision Home with the children, it gives us a satisfaction of being with Prashanth.

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The innocent children even asked me whose birthday it was. It is difficult to explain to these small children. So I just said that it is my son Prashanth’s birthday. The children are generally excited  and that a few of the smaller kids even volunteered to cut the birthday cake.

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Happy moment

We will continue celebrating Prashanth’s birthday at this  home. As usual, we served the  children with dinner at 7.30pm.  After spending some time with  the children, we left for  home marking another day with  the physical absence of our beloved son, Prashanth.

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